As a parent, we worry about our children’s emotional well-being, so it’s a natural question to be asking, “Does my kiddo need therapy?” Childhood and adolescence are full of ups and downs, and it can be hard to figure out what’s normal and what requires additional support.
This guide will help you understand the differences and provide some steps you can take if you’re concerned.
What’s “Normal” in my Child or Teen?
Children and teens experience a wide range of emotions as they grow and develop – mood swings, anxiety, defiance, and social struggles. Puberty, school pressure, and peer relationships can exacerbate and intensify these feelings, especially during those adolescent years.
The three things you want to consider when trying to differentiate between typical development and something that may require therapy are:
- Intensity: Are these emotions disproportionate to what’s happening?
- Duration: How long have these patterns of emotions/behaviors lasted?
- Impact: How disruptive are these episodes to daily functioning at home, school, or with friends?
What Can Therapy Offer My Child or Teen?
Therapy isn’t just a crisis response. It can be a proactive and preventative strategy to provide additional support for you and your child to:
- Identify and express their emotions in a healthy, safe, and appropriate way
- Learn and build coping skills and strategies
- Improve communication and conflict resolution patterns between family members
- Develop confidence, efficacy, and responsibility
For younger children, therapy will involve directive and non-directive play and activities. For teens, talk-based approaches mixed with some playfulness can give them a safe, nonjudgemental space to open up.
What If My Child Doesn’t Want to Go?
This is common; especially with adolescents. Instead of forcing it upon them, try:
- Framing therapy as support, not punishment
- Learning about strengths to overcome weaknesses
- Starting with a trial period of 4-6 sessions
Most of the time, their resistance comes from doing something new – talking about emotions to a stranger. Patience and open communication will go a long way to getting their buy-in.
How Do I Find the Right Therapist?
Just as your child or teen is unique, so are therapists. We’re all human beings with our own lives, experiences, trainings, and approaches. Don’t be afraid to involve your child in the process of finding someone who’d be a good fit. If you’re unsure, ask about a consultation call. Even a single, short conversation can help you decide what’s best for your child.
You don’t need to have all the answers to take the first step. Trust your instincts – if something feels “off,” it’s okay to explore support. Therapy isn’t a sign that something is wrong with your child; it’s a sign that you’re prioritizing their well-being. You’re not alone in this, and neither is your child. Reach out today.